I’ve seen a lot over the last two years about how the pandemic has changed people. It has changed how we work in some cases, how we visit friends and family, even how some of us get simple items like groceries. I’ll freely admit, that not only as an introvert, but one who has permanent effects from a rather rough bout of Covid two years ago, I’ve been largely okay with these changes. I’m okay with it, until I’m not anymore. And that’s when everything becomes so very, very lonely.
This has become more and more obvious to me as I work with my new job. It’s almost entirely remote, which is great. But then I’ll go a whole day without having any one on one interaction with anyone, and I’ll wonder if I missed out on something. As much as I love my corgi, cats, and chickens – talking to them is not nearly the same as talking to another person.
One of my bosses and I have had frequent conversations (sometimes only through online means) about how to get others engaged, how to bridge this gap. And the more I find myself in that gap, the more I realize that it is something that needs to be addressed.
I’ve found some outlets for this that help – Friday chats with people that can be simply “How are you”. And then there’s the barn – where the horse is, and where there are usually a handful of people to run into. But the more I stay alone, the less I want to go out into the world, and the more I know I need to. It’s a funny balance, one that is not made any more clear by the world going on around me. I’ve finally been given a chance to stay away from it all, and I find myself wanting to sneak back – just for a few moments. As much as I love being alone, I need that reminder to avoid being lonely.
Paradox? Perhaps. But I guess it is the “way we live now”.
Until next time – though feel free to drop a comment – a connection is still a connection even in the great wide web.