Having recently finished college, I find myself at loose ends. I came back to a job for a year, with the understanding that when I was done with school I would be moving on. Even in my organized mind, this didn’t go according to plan. I became attached to my work group, dedicated to trying to keep us all afloat when the rest of the world appeared to be drowning, and dedicated to a level of accomplishment that is hard to attain. However, as the stress of school slowly ebbs from my day-to-day life, I can’t help but realize that the status quo has to change.
When I learn the tricks to a stellar resume and cover letter, I’ll share those. It can be hard as an introvert to come up with a positive, bold way of talking about ourselves. As an INTJ, my opinion is that the facts should speak for themselves without the necessity of any elaboration. Such is not the case, sadly, in this extroverted world we live in.
Despite the lack of glowing feedback in my current job hunt (a lot of no responses and one form letter – wait, make that 2 form letters), I did manage an interview within my current company. Now it’s a well known fact, at least amongst us introverts, that we are not necessarily shy, we just prefer to be around our “own”. At work, I can be social, talk to anyone, make friends, and be comfortable. However, the prospect of an interview – with a stranger at a building not my own – can be quite intimidating.
I know I am not alone in overthinking things. You don’t have to be an introvert to check that box. At the same time, when faced with something that goes outside our comfort zone, I think I can also safely say that most introverts are going to either avoid the event or overthink it. I’ll admit to the latter. In a twist of irony, though, after overthinking it and reading the dozen or so articles my mother (also an overthinking introvert) sent to me, my interview was “indefinitely postponed”. Then, the night before, literally after 7 pm, I was told my interview had been rescheduled for the next day at 4 pm. Silver lining was that I had to scramble so much to cover my shift and try to take care of all the things I usually shepherd all day that I didn’t have the opportunity to overthink.
The lesson I feel like the world has been teaching me this year is quite simple: stop overthinking. This worked on assignments my final semester (the less I analyzed, the better the grade). This also ended up working on my interview preparation. It can be nearly impossible for those of us who, when faced with something outside of our comfort zone, regain that comfort by coming up with at least a dozen contingency plans. But maybe that’s the bigger picture here. Maybe that’s exactly what I needed to have realized for the better part of the last thirty years and just now have started to think of applying. Maybe life really is easier if we just stop for a moment and live it.
Then again…maybe not. It worked for me this time, but I’m fairly certain I’ll be back to plans built into plans next time. Unless, somehow, this lesson finally sticks. In the meantime, here are a few of those aforementioned links fellow introverts might find useful: